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We are all looking for unconditional love. Most of us never got it. When we fall in love we think, "Now, finally, here is someone who will give me the (unconditional) love I've always wanted."

So we marry. Then it starts---because we're not programmed for love. Instead, we are programmed to duplicate our parents' relationship. Because of this programming, even if we found someone who loved us unconditionally, we would have to push them away.

How can we attract what we are not programmed to receive? We can't---until we take a conscious look at what we are programmed to attract. Only then can we change our lives.

This program is designed to help us do just that.

HIDDEN MESSAGES

PROGRAMMING

She was an extremely beautiful woman in her mid-thirties. She was also an extremely successful business woman---equal to or better than many men in her profession. She'd come to me for a consultation because she was considering remarrying. Although her two previous marriages had been unsuccessful, she longed for a man with whom she could be happy. She was in my office because she honestly wondered if that were possible.

In the course of the consultation, she shared with me that her mother was successful in her career. Message: BE A SUCCESS IN YOUR CAREER. She also shared that her mother had been married several times, so she was programmed for multiple marriages. Each time my client married, her mother encouraged her to leave her husband. Her mother's message was: MARRY, BUT DON'T STAY MARRIED. As a child, my client saw her mother win every argument with each of her husbands. Message: ARGUE WITH MEN AND WIN. My client's father was strong, but distant and unaffectionate. Message: MEN ARE DISTANT AND UNAFFECTIONATE.   My client created this situation in her marriages and felt unloved by her husbands. Each of her stepfathers put up a good fight, but ultimately they left. Message: MEN WILL PUT UP A GOOD FIGHT AND THEN LEAVE.

The combination of verbal and non-verbal messages produced a woman who resented men, yet kept turning to them to make her happy. Because she was programmed for marriage to be stormy and her husbands to leave, she created just that. She married strong men and wound up emasculating them. She was looking for love, but her programming would not let her keep it.

Her fiancé played right into the program. He was stubborn and determined. He was not a success in his career, although he had great potential. Each time he came close to success, he'd fall short. His ambitions were high, but he became a dilettante. He made a great impression, but had no money. His programming explained it all. At one point in time, his father had been very important and successful in his career. When the young man was just a boy, his father had been nominated for an extremely prestigious award. Winning this award would have meant financial security for the rest of his life. Unfortunately, another nominee was selected as the winner. From that point on, the son was programmed to COME CLOSE, BUT FALL SHORT, and that's exactly what he did in every area of life.

His parents had not gotten along. His proud, stoic father had given him the message that THE WOMAN SHOULD PUT THE MAN FIRST. He also felt that MEN WERE MORE INTELLIGENT THAN WOMEN.

These two were programmed for each other. Here was a chauvinist up against a powerful woman; a business failure up against a business success. Neither one, however, was programmed for a warm, loving relationship, though that's what they both wanted. When faced with a situation like this, the first reaction might be to discourage a marriage, since it seems doomed to failure. Yet, these two people were attracted to each other precisely because they could give one another what each was programmed to receive. And, in spite of their programming, they loved one another. This love could, if they chose, be the impetus to help them see and release their programming and create a warm, loving relationship.

This situation occurs all the time. Our hidden messages are so deeply ingrained in our subconscious that we respond to them unknowingly. For example, if one of your hidden messages is that YOU CANNOT BE HAPPY WHILE A FAMILY MEMBER IS UNHAPPY, you will find that you are never happy because there is always someone who needs your help. Even if you are miles away, just knowing that a relative might be unhappy about something can upset you. After awhile, this message can be triggered simply by the suggestion of happiness--as soon as you feel good you have to feel bad. This totally destroys your enjoyment of life.

Another common message is that YOU WILL NEVER BE AS GOOD AS YOUR FATHER (OR MOTHER, OLDER SISTER, YOUNGER BROTHER, ETC.). If you received this message, you will see to it that you fall short of your goals so as not to surpass him. If he has not been much of a success in his life, where does that leave you?

We have been told that if we will live up to the potential indicated in the natal chart, our lives will work. Why, then, are so many lives not working? The answer is simple: they ARE working, or at least the hidden messages are working, running our lives. By knowing what these messages are, we can be free to be our highest and best, to be limitless.

YOUR FATHER'S MESSAGES

THE SUN

Your father takes you from the security of the home and teaches you how to act in society. He helps you form your public image, the face you want the world to see. The Sun represents your father.

Sun in Scorpio:

Your father taught you to be a private person, possibly manipulative and always in control of yourself. His message is not to trust what you see or hear, but to look below the surface to see what's really going on.

Sun in 4th house:

You look to your father to fulfill your emotional security needs. His message is that your home and family should be the center of your life. As a result you can be wrapped up in providing security for your family. He also gave you the message that you are to be the king in your home---but HE wants to be king, which can trigger a clash of egos.

Sun in hard aspect to Mercury:

Your father has a one-track mind, making it hard for him to concentrate on more than one thing at a time. He can only discuss what is of interest to him. You are the same way. He does not give you enough space to be objective about him.

Sun in soft aspect to Mars:

Your father is direct and assertive, yet channels his energies well. He taught you to do the same. Your sexual energies are well-directed and you enjoy a certain amount of competition. While you want to win, you are a good sport. You have a lot of energy and vitality.

Sun in soft aspect to Jupiter:

Your father is friendly, outgoing and generous. He has lots of friends and is well-liked. He is philosophical and sees things optimistically. He passed all this along to you.

Sun in hard aspect to North and South Nodes:

You can have difficulties in your relationships due to a strong ego. There can be losses connected to power and authority in this lifetime.

YOUR MOTHER'S MESSAGE

THE MOON

The most important person in your early years is your mother. Because the Moon rules both the mother and the subconscious, her influence reaches you on the deepest levels. It might be said that since the subconscious is the repository of all past-life experiences, your mother triggers this memory, which is why her influence is so strong.

Your mother's main message is to look for emotional security. The house in which the Moon is placed natally indicates that area of life in which you hope to find this security. You received this message either directly or indirectly. She told you where to look for it, and you spend the rest of your life looking for it where she said it would be. The sign in which the Moon falls describes your mother, as do the aspects to the Moon. The aspects also tell you if it will be easy or difficult to find the security you seek. Because the Moon is changeable, the promise of emotional security is elusive. Perhaps this is why you keep returning to the place where it is supposed to be, hoping it will be there this time.

Keep in mind that these messages are not necessarily verbal. You can receive them from her actions as well as her words; by her presence as well as her absence.

Moon in Leo:

Your mother is dramatic, though not necessarily showy. She can say or do things  for shock value, though, should the need arise. She is creative, loves to have fun and does well with children. All this applies to you as well. She taught you to be a prince (or princess), but will never relinquish her role as queen. She will dominate either obviously or subtly. Your security needs can be fulfilled through being creative and, perhaps, by being in the limelight.

Moon in 2nd house:

Your mother gave you a strong emotional need for money. Money may have been important to her. You transferred your security from mother to money. She acts as if she were your possession, and you treat her as such. Because the Moon is changeable, her message may be that your finances---and security---will go up and down, which can increase your insecurity and cause you to try to hang on to them more tightly. Notice what you do with your money when you're feeling insecure or unsettled. That is part of her message. Your true freedom comes from letting go of your emotional attachment to money and possessions.

Moon in soft aspect to Mars:

You and your mother deal directly and forthrightly with each other. She taught you to channel your energies positively without wasting them. As a result, you are able to get things done quickly and easily. You have a good rapport with both men and women. You function well in competitive situations.

Moon in hard aspect to Jupiter:

This aspect tends toward overindulgence and exaggeration. Your mother buys love and compensates for lack of it. You tend to exaggerate your moods and attract people who overdo a good thing. You may overwhelm people by coming on larger-then-life.

Moon in hard aspect to Neptune:

You do not see your mother clearly. Either she is so wonderful that you feel you'll never live up to her example, or she relinquished her responsibilities, leaving you to create your own maternal concept. She may have avoided reality through drugs, alcohol, food, sleep, etc. There is a great deal of wishful thinking on your part in connection with your mother. As a result of this, you can be vulnerable to people who deceive you if you ignore reality.

Moon in soft aspect to North and South Nodes:

Your intuition and emotions are well-balanced and help you learn the lessons your mother is here to teach you. The good rapport you had with women in past lives helps you in this one.

MESSAGES FROM AUTHORITY FIGURES

Saturn is reality and often, restriction. In the natal chart, it can represent your mother, father, grandparents, family ---anyone who imposes a restrictive influence on your life and tries to teach you reality through discipline.

Saturn in Aries:

The authority figures in your life taught you to never take a back seat to anyone, and to insist on doing things your way. You are not afraid of doing what you want, but can be self-centered.

Saturn in 9th house:

The authority figures in your life may have indicated that God is wrathful, vengeful, and should be feared. Their philosophical approach was probably a traditionally religious one. Your philosophy involves respect for and fear of power, and you take your beliefs seriously.

Saturn in hard aspect to Mars:

The authority figures in your life probably gave orders instead of guidance and direction. As a result, you both resent and fear them. This can make you fight the establishment---you feel you could do better. Inhibitions prevent the constructive flow of energies. This can be sexually frustrating. There is a tone of suppressed anger about you.

Saturn in hard aspect to Uranus:

You are torn between breaking free and assuming your responsibilities. You rebel against being told what to do, and resent any restriction to your freedom. Yet, you feel compelled to go along with the program, even half-heartedly. The authority figures in your life felt trapped between two generations, and you may feel the same way. You can identify with older as well as younger people, traditional and non-traditional groups. You vacillate between towing the line and breaking free. The double message you received from your authority figures is: rebel, but conform.

PLUTO

Pluto is another indicator of your mother's ---and sometimes your grandmother's---message. Pluto represents total change, control, and transmutation. It is the all-or-nothing planet. Pluto deals with all the mysteries of life: life itself, where it originates, where it goes when it leaves this plane. Pluto and the aspects it makes in your chart describe your mother's message about and your attitude towards sex.

 Pluto's house placement indicates where there can be a power play with your mother, where you will both try to dominate and control, and where you can bring about a total transformation. You control because you don't trust. You don't trust the people who rule the house in which Pluto falls.

While Pluto represents your mother's message, it can also represent your grandmother's. Use whichever word applies to you.

Pluto in Virgo:

Pluto in Virgo gives you the need to be in control of your health and your work.  However, the need to be in control can adversely affect both.  At some point, you may be able to totally let go of the need to be in control.  This will improve your health and allow you to truly serve.

Pluto in 3rd house:

There was a reversal of roles between you and your mother when you were a child--unless Pluto is retrograde---in which case, it occurred later. Your mother dominates your thinking and you think in terms of how to control every situation, weighing every idea and word carefully. You want to understand the workings of your mind so that you control it, rather than it controlling you. Your thinking will undergo a total change in this lifetime, enabling you to think the way YOU choose.

Pluto in hard aspect to Venus:

Your mother's messages about love and sex are at odds with each other, giving you conflicting messages about both. Your desire nature is strong, but can be suppressed. Women may have been given the message that "nice girls don't." While you love your mother, there can be sexual competition with her if you are a woman, and a confused or suppressed desire for her if you are a man. This can affect your relationships,  creating the need to control and dominate sexually in order to possess.

Pluto in hard aspect to Uranus:

You rebel against any attempts to restrict your free will. This message was given to you by your mother. Your psychic ability is strong, but you are suspicious. This can cloud your perception. At times, you can go to extremes in your need for independence.

Pluto in soft aspect to Neptune:

There is a positive psychic bond between you and your mother. Your spiritual side is active, and you have vision and insight.

THE FOURTH AND TENTH HOUSES

The fourth house relates to home, family and your deepest emotional security needs. It describes the parent to whom you look for the fulfillment of these needs. Traditional astrology gives the mother rulership over this house because she has been the nurturing parent, the one who stayed home and cared for the family. Today, though, mother often pursues a career, and it is father who provides the emotional security.

The tenth house rules your career, your public image and the authority figure(s) in your life. It is your father who teaches you how to get along in the world outside the home. As such, the tenth house traditionally relates to him.

There are no set rules as to which parent rules which house. Sometimes one parent fulfills both roles. Other times the parents reverse roles. Each chart must be analyzed individually to determine which parent rules the fourth and which rules the tenth.

The relationship between the fourth and tenth is important because your home, family and the security they give you determine how you will do outside the home. If you don't get what you need from one parent, you may turn to the other, who may or may not be able to fulfill your needs. Lack of emotional security in the home can lead to compensation in the career. The career, then, can become a parent replacement.

The signs on the cusps of the fourth and tenth houses add another dimension to understanding your parents. When trying to determine which house is which parent, it is helpful to exaggerate the descriptions enough to allow yourself to be able to make a distinction between the two.
Libra on 4th Cusp:

This parent said to do your thing in your career. He/she is ambitious, impatient and puts him/herself first.

Aries on 10th Cusp:

This parent is the family mediator who wants things peaceful at home. Marriage is important to him/her.

Sun in 4th house:

The fourth house is your father unless the Moon or Pluto is also here, indicating that both parents influence this house. You look to your father to fulfill your emotional security needs. His message is that your home and family are to be the center of your life. Your ego can be involved in providing security for your family. By his presence or absence, he gave you the message that you are to be the king in your home. His messages get stronger and your life gets better as time goes by.

Mercury in 4th house:

This parent is a thinker and may be talkative. He/she is curious and might enjoy travel.

Neptune in 4th house:

You do not see this parent clearly. He/she is either an inspiration or a disappointment; spiritual and giving, or martyred and living in a make-believe world. If the latter, he/she can escape into alcohol, drugs, food, etc.

North Node in 4th or 10th house:

While you may be tempted to listen to or follow the South Node parent, the North Node parent is the one who will help you learn your greatest lessons.

South Node in 4th or 10th house:

You have already learned a great deal from this parent in past lives. It is time to turn your attention to the lessons the North Node parent is teaching you. There can be disappointment, even losses involved with the South Node parent if you expect too much of him/her.

THE ROVING DELEGATES

   The signs represent principles to be learned.  The house cusp on which a sign falls tells us the area of life in which that principle will be learned. Usually, the principle manifests in more than one area of life, since the ruler, or ROVING DELEGATE of that sign, carries the message to another house.

   It makes no difference what sign falls on the cusp in question.  We simply link the sign with its ruler's house position.  For example, with Virgo on the fourth and Mercury in the eleventh, the ruler of the fourth is in the eleventh.  The same thing is true if Taurus is on the fourth and Venus is in the eleventh.  The same concept applies in each case.

   The house in which the fourth or tenth house ruler falls gives us more information regarding that parent's messages.

Ruler of 4th house in 3rd:

This parent has a direct influence on your thinking and tells you that your emotional security need will be fulfilled by using your head.  Your need for security influences your thinking, making it more emotional than you might realize.

Ruler of 10th house in 6th:

The authority figure in your life taught you to work hard and not just assume command.  This parent can influence your work and even work for you.  He or she taught you to be either healthy or unhealthy, and can influence your health directly.

A FINAL WORD

Now that you've looked at your programming, you may be wondering if it will control you forever or if there is something you can do to change it, to move past it. There is. You can release it and yourself to God in complete faith and trust and just BE. When you come from BEING, you are coming from unconditional love. You see beauty everywhere. You are one with the whole and know that you are protected and loved.